Spring Break Is Not What It Used To Be!

Gone are the day of a carefree spring break, filled with friends, booze and sleeping in late.  Now spring break means rowdy threenagers waking me up early, demanding milk and breakfast and destroying the house every morning in 3.3 seconds. Is this how my parents felt when my sister and I had off for Spring Break, or any break for that matter?!?  I thought they loved us being home!  I guess I was wrong.  I used to also think that my mother loved sitting in the heat to watch me play softball every year.  A few years ago I was told otherwise...and you think you know someone!

Yesterday we spent the afternoon at Children's for G's neurology appointment.  It went well, we get to go for another EEG soon. Oh joy! L has turned into a talking machine!  He is like a sponge! Everything I say, he repeats.  It's pretty cool if you ask me! I really need to start watching my potty mouth.  I believe he may have repeated and F bomb.  Whoops!  Live and learn!  Although G still can't talk, he is finding other way to communicate with us.  It's pretty cool.  I can't imagine the frustration of wanting to say something but not being able to get it out. The boys are LOVING school!  Some afternoons when I go to pick them up they don't want to leave.  Other days they can't get out the door fast enough. We are lucky that they have amazing teachers that care about them. We just got news that the hubs will be gone another month.  BOOOOO! We were so looking forward to him coming home.  The boys have changed so much in the time he's been away.

Last weekend we had the March of Dimes walk.  Team FAMM did amazing and raised $4000 in a month. Imagine what we can do in more time!  It's was a awful for the boys.  we ended up leaving before the walk even started.  I think between the loud noise, lots of people, the heat, and many other factors it was to overstimulating for them.   Needless to say, was ran back to the car, all three of us crying, and hightailed it out of there!

Today we went to Sea and Explore.  It's a therapy place but they open up two hours a day for free play.  The boys loved it!  The therapists that work there are amazing and the boys had so much fun. We will definitely be going back! It was a bonus that we were the only ones there so G&L had the run of the place.  Now they're have a lovely snooze and then we have to go pick our sick dog up from the vet.  Poor girl has been throwing up and won't eat.

Cheers to Spring Break!

PS...Being an adult is overrated! 

Why I support Autism Speaks.

As we approach April 2nd, and the "Light It Up Blue" campaign from Autism Speaks I feel I need to share our story, as too why we support it.  I know there are many that do not, and they are entitled to their own opinion.  This is just my view, as a mom to two amazing, smart boys with Autism.

To start, if one person asks me to educate them about Autism beause of Light it UP Blue and World Autism Day, then to me, it's a success.  Secondly, for our family, Autism Speaks has helped us first hand.  When the boys were first diagnosed with Autism almost a year ago, we felt lost, defeated, and like we were the worst parents in the world.  G&L we diagnosed as moderate to severe, we were given suggestions on what to do as far as therapy, and then sent on our way.  What do we do with all this information?  Who do we turn too? I started researching on line and came across Autism Speaks.

After I wrote down a list of things to ask, I took the plunge and gave them ( Autism Speaks) a call.  The person I spoke too, gave me a ton of information and was able to point us in a direction and helped us get started.  We were given phone number to call that could help us locally, different therapies, and most of all, this woman listened to me cry for about an hour.  To this day, I still speak to this woman and she checks in to see how the boys are doing.  Although we have never met, I consider her a friend, she was there to help us, when we felt lost.  Now, a year later, I am stronger, my husband is stronger, and most importantly, G&L are stronger and doing amazing things. 

Where does all the money go?  Last year while I was fundraising for the March of Dimes people were boycotting, saying they only get $.10 on the dollar and that was why it was called March of Dimes.  that is false, as is a lot of things that are spread about non profit organizations.  You can look up just about any organization online and there will be good things said, as well as bad things, and many things that contradict each other.

If I can help one person who is newly diagnosed, or educate one person, or help one family get the care they need to give their loved one with Autism the best life possible and the best services, I'm going to do it. 

 You can agree with me, or disagree with me, we all have our opinions.  My views are coming with my personal experience on how Autism Speaks helped my family.  I will "Light it Up Blue" and I will walk with pride on April 26th to raise money and awareness.  Most importantly I will continue to love my children for everything they are and everything they will become. They're going places in this world and I am honored that I am here to be by their side and chosen to be their mother.

Yes, I Would Take It All Away If I Could!!

It's been so long since I've had time to write.  With the hubs being gone, I barely get a second to come up for air.  The boys have been sick for the past month, I'm fighting a staph infection and we're all pretty much exhausted!

Today we went to a birthday party for some twin friends third birthday.  The boys had a great time!  We got out of there just before them meltdowns so it was perfect timing!  The awesome LC came with us to help with the boys.  I really don't think I could have done it without her.  She is amazing with the boys, and they love her so much.  She's one of the few people we trust with G&L.  It's an added bonus that she teaches kids with Autism.

As World Autism Day is approaching (April 2nd)I've been seeing a ton of things online boycotting it saying it's not about finding a cure it's about acceptance.  World Autism Day brings awareness which helps with acceptance.  I've also read tons of blogs and posts from people saying it's not a disease so don't try to cure it.  I've said this before and I'll say it again.  I know many disagree with me but if I could take G&L's Autism away, I would in a heart beat.  It kills me to see them struggle, to see friends with babies that are only one, passing milestones that we dream of them reaching some day.  I look at it like this, G has epilepsy.  He takes medicine to help reduce his seizures.  If I could take his seizures away, I would in a heart beat.  If I could take his Autism away I would in a heart beat. If I could take away L's SVT and Mastocytosis, would I?  You bet!  The same way I would want to take away his Autism.  Why would any parent, or any human being for that matter, what to see a person, especially their child struggle to talk, communicate, walk, handle emotions, etc.  I know I can't take their Autism away, but I pray that one day they can fully communicate, be independent and maybe even have a job. I have the same dreams for my children that any parent does.  I shouldn't be ostracized for wanting my children to be nuerotypical!  No parent says, "Gosh, I really hope my child has Autism!"  Just because they have it, makes me no different. I want the best for my kids.

With all that being said, on April 2nd....LIGHT IT UP BLUE!  Wear a blue shirt, put a blue light bulb on your front porch, heck...eat a blue cupcake!  Autism is real, Inspire people, Educate people, Make people aware!  This girl will be decked out in blue!

The Magical Place Called School.

For the past week the boys and I have been fighting a beast of a cold.  I think we finally might be on the mend!  Take two kiddo's with Autism who don't sleep much to begin with, add in a stuffy, runny nose and a cough and what do you have?  No sleep for Momma!!!  The hubs is on his deployment and the poor guy is sick too! Go home winter, you're drunk!

Yesterday the boys got an early dismissal from school.  You know, since it was raining!  They also had a delayed opening this morning, which was understandable since we did get some ice tonight.  What did that mean for me?  Two crazy three year olds bouncing off the walls and screaming since their schedule was thrown off.  Ah, the glamorous life of an Autism family.  I'm totally that helicopter mom who is never more then three feet away from her children.  I was terrified to send them to school even though it's a school for special needs.  What if something happened?  What if they were upset and I'm the only one who could understand their nonverbal ways? What if they wonder off? What it, what if, what if.  Well, let me tell you!  The place they call school is what I refer to as this magical place that helps me keep my sanity.  I never thought I would feel this way.  After being with my boys 24/7 for the last three years, I couldn't imagine them not being with me all.the.time.  Well, let me tell you, this magical place takes care of them, teaches them, and loves them for 6.5 hours a day!  They love it there!  They've made friends with other adorable non verbal kids, they have amazing teachers who love and care for them, and I get some time to myself.  I never realized how much I needed this time, until I had it!  Holy, mother of Autism! Did I ever need it!

I attempted to potty train L over the weekend.  It went as I suspected.  NOT GOOD!  He could care less about it, but at least our floors got a good cleaning.  I put him back in diapers and called it a day. He's wasn't making the connection and I'm not pushing it.  When he gets it, he gets it.  I think G is going to be in diapers til he's 20.  It is, what it is.  L's teacher is going to send me some info on potty training non verbal kiddo's with Autism. we'll see how it goes.  G just kept watching L pee on himself with a confused look.  I think he was just happy it wasn't him!

Stay tuned for our awesome raffle we're holding!  Lots of things to auction off so we can raise even more money for our Autism walk!!

Dear Autism, You are a B*tch!

This is a whiny entry.  Don't say I didn't warn you.  Today I want to give Autism and big FU!

So G&L had a field trip for school today and I was a chaperone. I thought I was going to lose my mind. L did great for about two hours which is really great for him. He just got super tired and started to slow down.  Even though he was exhausted he still managed to hold it together.

G was a MANIAC...people (not his class) were staring at him and me, like I was a big A-hole. He kept throwing himself on the floor, screaming, flapping, crying, yelling etc. Anytime I would try to pick him up to comfort him he would hit me in the face.  I know he was acting like this because he was way to overstimulated, but it doesn't make it any easier when your in the midst of it.  I was a little over zealous and didn't bring his stroller inside(he has a wheel chair stroller which has a compression clip on it, to help him and it's anti tip for when he throws himself). We had to walk about one city block back to the car and he kept throwing himself on the side walk and having a protest. I was pouring sweat by the time I got back to the car. One of his teachers asked if I needed help getting them back to the car, but stupidly, I said No. As G is throwing himself on the sidewalk people were walking by giving me side eye.  I may have said, "What? You've never seen a three year old with Autism?" to someone. What the hell is wrong with me? I need to accept peoples help! They are trained to deal with this! I just feel super defeated today. Autism is a bitch. The end.

Holy Cow!! I Have Threenagers!!

What a whirlwind of a week it's been!  My babies have officially turned three!!!  How is this possible?  I know people say time flies when you have kids, but it doesn't have to fly this quickly!  Even though they are only three, and we try to live in the now, it's so hard not to think about what happens in 20 years?  What will they be able to do?  Where will they be?  We'll save that for day dreaming!

Why else was this week a super big week?!?!  G&L started school!  Unlike the school we tried with L last year, this is a school that is made just for them, with kids just like them, and teachers that have the resources and education to help them and work with them.  It's such a breath of fresh air.  There are only 8 kids and 3 teachers!  G&L are having a bit of a rough time with transitioning but they're starting to get it.  They ordered adaptive seating for G which is awesome for him!  They are exhausted from school because they refuse to nap during nap time (can you blame them with all that new stuff around them?), but as soon as they get done with school we start running around for therapies.  Such a busy little life they lead for three year olds! I have a meeting with the school PT and their lead teacher on Monday to go over some things for them and to come up with a plan for them in school.  Mainly G.  G is a big wanderer and needs a bit more attention.

Another big transition is coming up for the boys this week.  The hubs is deploying for a few months.  Now that they're getting older, I start to worry how it will effect their day to day lives.  Especially L since he loves spending time with his daddy.  I do notice that when ever the hubs is deployed, L seems to gravitate towards friends husbands.  He has a male teacher assistant so maybe that will help him with the transition of daddy not being here.

Here's a picture of our crazy family from G&L's birthday party.  This picture makes me laugh because it totally captures us!!

Here's a collage I made for their birthday! G's newborn pics on top, L on the bottom.

Walk For Autism - Team Thompson Twins

Autism Statistics:

 Every 11 minutes someone is diagnosed with some form of Autism. 1 in 54 boys are diagnosed with Autism while 1 in 252 girls are diagnosed in the United States. Autism affects over 2 million individuals in the U.S. and tens of millions worldwide. Autism is the fastest-growing serious developmental disability in the U.S. and costs a family $60,000 a year on average. G&L are just two people out of many that are affected with Autism. 

 How can you help? By raising awareness, educate people and be proactive. No matter how prepared you are as a parent, no one ever thinks their child will have Autism. Please help us raise awareness and help in our fight to educate people about Autism and most importantly to help us fight for G&L. Educate! Donate! Join our Team! Just click on the Link below!


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